I was in conversation with a client when she expressed that everytime she thinks of her own happiness she gets engulfed by guilt. In a marriage of 30 years where she has played the role of the nurturer and a giver, keeping everyone's needs and wants on her priority list, she today feels lost. But even now, when her children are grown ups and are taking good care of themselves, she feels burdened with guilt whenever she has a choice between her happiness and of others around.
She asked me what is the right thing to do ?
My questions to her and to anyone who resonates with this situation are.........
Even if you choose to do things which as per you, would make others happy, will you really be able to make them happy?
All these years of you attempting to do the right thing by suppressing your own emotions and dreams, how many of these people are genuinely happy with you today?
Compromises are a part of life and we all do them at a certain degree, so this post is not about asking you to act selfishly but it's about drawing lines. We raise the bar of expectations of people around us at unreasonable heights and then we lose ourselves in an attempt to reach there everytime.
People who truly love you won't ever want you to suppress yourself and the ones who expect you to do, ain't in love with you. No matter what you do for the later, it won't be enough and you will be made to feel as if you are not good enough.
Happiness is a state of mind and we all ought to fend for ours ourselves. So please shrug off the burden from your shoulders. People around you are well equipped to search for their happiness just as you are.
When you choose yourself, you will also attract people in your life who will find their happiness in yours and such people should be treasured forever
Get rid of that guilt today. © Sakshi Coach
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Love and kindness should flow. We only find true love and happiness when we let love and kindness flow from our hearts. Good write.
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Thank you so much 😊 ….those are the things which grow when spread…should be allowed to free flow
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Exactly
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Sakshi! This came at the right time. Just when I was thinking that there is so much more to life than moping and giving up, comes your poem! Thank you!
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I am so glad Parikhit 😊…….God gave us powers to heal ourself and others ……..in our entire lifetime if we get to touch one life …..make one positive change …. I think it’ll be all worth it . Thank you for reading 😊🌼
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I can relate! There’s more to life than changing diapers and cleaning – yes! 😊🙏🏽
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Haa haaa life of a mother 😜…….. my son has long crossed that age so I can have a sigh of relief 😂
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Sakshi,
Such an amazing poem, I just had to share …
https://momlifewithchiari.com/2018/08/22/reblog-wednesday-purpose-of-life-i-refuse-to-give-up/
Hope you are well today 🙂
Ana
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Very well Ana……hope you are good too
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That’s great! Hanging in there 😊🙏🏽
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No “hanging in”my friend twirl and swirl and make most of this thing called life🤗💕
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Yes, we have to go with it, otherwise we sink deeper. You’re absolutely right. 😊
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this is so lovely and encouraging, thank you.
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I am glad you like it Wendi 😊. Thank you for reading
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my pleasure.
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I agree Wendi! 🙂
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Nice flow, and another lovely post! 👌🏽
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Thank you Warren 😊🌼
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My pleasure
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Beautiful and profound ‘Everyone deserves
To be hugged and adored’ every word is dedicated to love and compassion!!
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Days when my heart swells up with love ❤️….it’s best share to avoid damage 😜
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Hahaha.. A wise Choice 😉
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😜
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So beautifully written! I enjoyed this so much, so positive and uplifting. It soothed my soul 😊🙏🏽
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I am so glad it did …….stay happy always 😊🤗
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Positive truths here.
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Thank you 😊
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You are welcome 🙂
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What an uplifting post Sakshi. 💕
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Punam ❤️……..I just cannot say your name the way u say mine …….failed effort 😂. Thank you for reading 🙏🏻
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Hahaha! I heard you.😁
You are welcome dear. 🤗
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“Love and kindness
Is not to be stored
They should be
Infinitely poured.”…
Ultimate lines; really loved this. Its amazing how the combination of 26 letters create such powerful emotions and thoughts. If only the world shared your views…
Lovely!!
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Thank you Ritwik for such encouraging words ……..these 26 letters in the right combination possess the power to change someone’s world ……that’s why they say be careful of what you say. 😊🌼 Thank you for stopping by.
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Now a follower; will stop by regularly!!!
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Haa haaa and I have followed back so it’ll be mutual 😊. Have a great day
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Wow that’s beautiful Sakshi 😘
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Wow that’s beautiful Sakshi 😘
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Thank you dear Adithya 😊❤️
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Its true. Wisdom always grows…
Lovely poem Sakshi.
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Thank you so much Samar 😊🌼
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So happy and uplifting! Just what one needs to start the day 🙂
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Thank you for reading Neha 😊🌼
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always a pleasure, Sakshi 🙂
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It’s indeed great post …👍
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Thank you so much 😊🙏
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Wonderful. So positive.
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Thank you Jaya
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Welcome.
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Such wisdom, Sakshi. I agree – we are not born just to come and go. There is a grand design and we are all part of it.
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Thank you Rob 😊🌼. I appreciate your words
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Lovely!
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Thank you Vidur 😊
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Very true my friend ☺
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Thank you for reading 😊
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It was my pleasure ☺❤
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Beautifully written. We all should seek wisdom daily – helping us to make the right decisions based on the knowledge we obtain.
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Thank you so much for your kind words😊
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You always make sure of provoking the thoughts which sit still, until the mind reads a post from you 😛 ❤
Really such a compassionate and love filled post, having something for everyone to take from, this is my favourite kind ! 🙂
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You are way too kind my dear🤗😘. thank you so much .
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Thank you so much for reblogging Ana
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I know, there’s a reason.
What a beautiful poem Sakshi. And I love your belief in the purpose that the soul makes us to follow. This is like a magic potion for a dreamer like me, the self proclaimed Walter Mitty
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Awww thank you so much 😊…….I guess I have a bit of Walter Mitty in me too😄
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Frankly, I thought so too 😊
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Haa haaa …. Looks like my “gotcha” moment
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😊😊🤗🤗🤗
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Beautifully written! Very expressive and so Poetic! Thanks for sharing. Long Live Poetry!!!
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Thank you so much for reading and your kind words 😊
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Awesome Sakshi !! Well put:) Thanks for sharing !
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Thank you so much for reading
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